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Make Habits that will Fail

There are two extremely common obstacles that get in the way of people succeeding at habit change:

  • Messing up on the habit and then quitting.
  • Not starting because the habit change seems to hard.

Have you faced these problems? The answer is almost certainly yes because pretty much all of us have.

The answer to both of these problems is really the same:

The problem is that people feel discouraged by failure, or feel overwhelmed or intimidated.

The solution is to embrace the “Fail Faster” and iterate philosophy that’s all the rage in software.

Ship the habit

The Model T was created after Henry Ford and his partner shipped a very imperfect Model An automobile and had their mechanics gather real-world information about problems with the car. And then they made it better, one problem at a time.

They only gathered this information by shipping the car.

You’ll only gather the real-world information you need to make the habit stick (exercise, diet, meditation, reading, creating, non-procrastinating, yoga, etc.) by actually doing the habit.

So the most important thing you can do is do the habit every day. If you make mistakes, that’s great, because it’ll help you improve your habit method.

Embrace Failure as Lessons

Missing a day of your meditation habit isn’t absolute failure. Neither is messing up on your diet when you go to a party. Neither is failing to exercise when you’re on a trip.

It’s not a complete failure to mess up. The only true failure is when you don’t learn from the mess-up, and get better at the method.

So embrace each little problem as a way to get better. It’s a part of the process.

Give yourself credit for trying and failing. You don’t get credit for quitting or not trying.

Fail Faster

OK, that’s all great … but how do we incorporate failure and learning and shipping into a method for changing habits?

Here it is — the Fail Faster Method:

  • Write out a brief habit method — for example, “Walk every day for 20 minutes after work.”
  • Ship. That means start the habit. Get it going as easily as possible, so you can gain real-world info. Do the habit for just 3 days — this is an iteration of your habit method. Don’t aim for 30 days, just 3.
  • Fail faster. After doing the habit for 3 days, do a 2-minute review: how did the plan go? Did you do the habit every day? What worked? What got in the way?
  • Adjust. Learn from your last iteration by improving the method. If you didn’t go because you felt tired, can you try exercise at a different time? Can you do it for a shorter time (just 10 minutes)? Can you do it with a friend? Try googling your habit obstacle if you can’t think of a solution — lots of people have had the same obstacle and figured out a solution.
  • Ship again. After a 3-day ship, review, and adjust cycle, repeat the cycle. Every 3 days. Do the habit, do a 2-minute review, and adjust.

If you follow this plan, it’s guaranteed to work. Give yourself brownie points for shipping, for reviewing, for continuing the cycle. Treat each cycle as an experiment, with a hypothesis and a test and an analysis of the data. Experiment again.

Three-day cycles are amazing because you’re iterating faster than pretty much any other method out there. You could iterate daily, actually, but you’re likely to have better data after three days instead of just one.

Embrace experiments, ship, learn from failure and fail faster.

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Today isn’t a great day for me.

Today isn’t a great day for me.

I woke up early after too little sleep. Someone I love is mad at me and doesn’t seem to want to talk to me, which put me in a down mood. I couldn’t get focused to do any writing, so I answered emails, read stuff online, took a nap.

I did a workout, but couldn’t finish it because my wrist hurt.

It wasn’t a great day, and my mood descended as I thought about how badly so many people thought of me …

On a day like this, I sat still. It was all I could do.

I looked inward and faced the hurt.

I stayed with it, just giving it my attention.

I noticed the story I was telling myself, that was causing the pain. It wasn’t a good story. The more I got stuck telling myself this story, the more I was stuck in the pain.

So I turned to the present moment and allowed myself to feel the pain, instead of running from it, pushing it away, or trying to do something to end it.

It wasn’t so bad. And it didn’t stay around much longer, now that I allowed myself to sit with the hurt.

After turning and facing my feelings, staying with them, and seeing the nothingness in the middle of it all … everything was OK. Not brilliant, but not so bad.

Some days, you have nothing, but that’s OK.

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WHO AM I

I am sharing you my favorite quotes I collected in 2016

“There are no passengers on spaceship earth. We are all crew.” 
― Marshall Mcluhan

“There are three things we cry for in life: things that are lost, things that are found, and things that are magnificent.” 
― Douglas Coupland

“I think we are well-advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not. Otherwise they turn up unannounced and surprise us, come hammering on the mind’s door at 4 A.M. of a bad night and demand to know who deserted them, who betrayed them, who is going to make amends.”
― Joan Didion

“We’re all just walking each other home.”
― Ram Dass

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”
― J.K. Rowling

“Everything that I’ve ever done I can still relate to, and feel connected to it in a way. There’s no part of my life that I look at and go, ‘I don’t recognize that person at all.’”
― Ian Mckaye

“Fantasy is escapist, and that is its glory. If a soldier is imprisoned by the enemy, don’t we consider it his duty to escape?. . .If we value the freedom of mind and soul, if we’re partisans of liberty, then it’s our plain duty to escape, and to take as many people with us as we can!”
― J.R.R. Tolkien

“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.”
― Dr. Seuss

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.”
― Isaac Asimov

In Mid 20’s this is the question of most individuals and they strive to find the answer by doing end number of things just to understand the answer of WHO AM I? I am not going to claim that I found the answer who am I but I am just going to show some points which I did to find who am I and still I find on the same pitch, same area, with same people just to understand who am I.

Doing a startup is not the only goal you should have. Make goals which make you happy and not the goals which are common to everyone or something which will make other happy.

No matter what in life your work should your priority and don’t let anyone else let that place to be occupied. Make your brain surrounded by positive minded people and with positive energy. Leave your brain empty so that new things can be filled in don’t clutter your brain with useless topics as surrounded by WhatsApp or facebook. Identify things that are important to you and things are not relevant and remove unwanted scrap from the brain. Avoid falling into the trap of social networking, talking to friends on whatapp. Just avoid it

Make your life a goal and never play with your time. Consider time as most important assets in your lifetime, once gone that will never going to comeback. Make sure you better utilize the time in the manner you want to shape your life. Don’t let time shape your life, shape your life according to your needs and according to your goals. Make your time as the most important priority list in your books and journal no matter what I am going to spend my time wisely.

Make sure you have one goal at once. Because you will never feel satisfied in your life so it’s advisable to make one goal in a and stick to that goal and make sure you excel in that goal you become the pro in that goal.

Make mistakes in life, never try to avoid things that make you feel uncomfortable do things which make you feel awkward in life

Meet new people daily and share the experience and share your observation about life.

Laugh often, cry often, make someone happy, donate something which is important to you.

Love yourself, Be crazy and make this world happy.

 

 

 

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Everyone said your failed but, Entrepreneur said I Gained

It was rightly said that failure is the stepping stone to the success. You can enjoy the taste of success in far better way when you learn to enjoy the failure. I believe one who never failed in life, never did anything new in the life. They are Robots of Modern world 2.0

I have collated stories of famous personalities who took failure and steeping stone of success and rest is the history

#1 – Mr N R Narayana Murthy:

First worked in IIMA and then started a company called Softronics in 1976! When it failed after a year and half he joined Patni Computer Systems.

Later he started Infosys Technologies along with 6 other professionals as partners in 1981 and the rest as they say is history !

#2 – Henry Ford:

While Ford is today known for his innovative assembly line and American-made cars, he wasn’t an instant success. In fact, his early businesses failed and left him broke five time before he founded the successful Ford Motor Company.

Akio Morita: You may not have heard of Morita but you’ve undoubtedly heard of his company, Sony. Sony’s first product was a rice cooker that unfortunately didn’t cook rice so much as burn it, selling less than 100 units. This first setback didn’t stop Morita and his partners as they pushed forward to create a multi-billion dollar company.

Ratan Tata while building Tata Motors.

In 1998, Ratan Tata brought a hatchback car Indica but it failed badly. People didn’t like it. Nobody wanted to buy that car. Some people suggested him to sell his car division and he agreed.

In 1999, He contacted many companies and Ford Motor Company showed some interest. Ratan Tata along with Praveen Kadle went to Ford’s headquarter to discuss terms of deal but Ford’s attitude was insulting. Ford’s chairman Bill Ford said to Ratan Tata-

“WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT PASSENGER CARS, WHY DID YOU START THE BUSINESS. WE ARE DOING A FAVOUR BY BUYING YOUR BUSINESS.”

But what goes around comes around. In 2008, Ford’s Jaguar-LandRover was in terrible loss. Guess, who came to save them from going bankrupt. Yes, it was none other than Mr. Ratan Tata. He bought JLR division of Ford. JLR made a loss of 1800 crore that year and because of that Tata had to bear a loss of 2500 crore. This time, Ford’s words were-

“YOU ARE DOING US A FAVOUR BY BUYING OUR COMPANY.”

In 2014, Tata Motors made a profit of 2.33 Lakh Crore and JLR’s share in it was of 1.90 Lakh Crore, around 82%. Need I say more.

This story has been shared by Praveen Kadle, CEO of Tata Capital. ( Source: Quora )

#3 – Oprah Winfrey

Oprah had a rocky start in life. As the daughter of a teenaged low-income mother, her start was anything but glamorous. In her early years, Oprah recounts that not only were her living conditions rough, but she was always sexually abused, starting at the age of 9, by her cousin, uncle, and a family friend. At the age of 14 Oprah got pregnant, but her son died shortly after birth.

However, at the age of 14, Oprah was sent to live with her father, Vernon, in Tennessee. He helped her focus on her schooling, and she was subsequently accepted on a full scholarship to the University of Tennessee, majoring in communications. In high school, and in her first two years of college, Winfrey interned at a local radio station, helping to develop a foundation for a career in media.

But, even after Oprah was hired on to a local television station for the news, things didn’t go so easily. She was fired by the producer because she “unfit for television,” later taking a position with another station in Baltimore. Eventually, she hosted a local talk show named, People are Talking.

Later, in 1983, Winfrey re-located to Chicago, to host a station’s low-rated talk show called AM Chicago. Within a few months, the show went from last in the ratings, to higher than Donahue, which was the number one show at the time. This led to the show being renamed The Oprah Winfrey Show, which was syndicated across the country.

#4 – J.K. Rowling

Rowling is one of the most inspirational success stories of our time. Many people simply know her as the woman who created Harry Potter. But, what most people don’t know is what she went through prior to reaching stardom. Rowling’s life was not peaches and cream. She struggled tremendously.

In 1990, Rowling first had the idea for Harry Potter. She stated that the idea came “fully formed” into her mind one day while she was on a train from Manchester to London. She began writing furiously. However, later that year, her mother died after 10 years of complications from Multiple Sclerosis.

In 1992 she moved to Portugal to teach English where she met a man, married, and had a daughter. In 1993, her marriage ended in divorce and she moved to Edinburgh, Scotland to be closer to her sister. At that time, she had three chapters of Harry Potter in her suitcase.

Rowling saw herself as a failure at this time. She was jobless, divorced, penniless, and with a dependent child. She suffered through bouts of depression, eventually signing up for government-assisted welfare. It was a difficult time in her life, but she pushed through the failures.

In 1995 all 12 major publishers rejected the Harry Potter script. But, it was a year later when a small publishing house, Bloomsbury, accepted it and extended a very small £1500 advance.  In 1997, the book was published with only 1000 copies, 500 of which were distributed to libraries.

In 1997 and 1998, the book won awards from Nestle Smarties Book Prize and the British Book Award for Children’s Book of the Year. After that, it was one wild ride for Rowling. Today, Rowling has sold more than 400 million copies of her books, and is considered to be the most successful woman author in the United Kingdom.