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This MOMENT

We all suffer, every day: worry, procrastination, anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, irritated, angry, frustrated, wishing things were different, comparing ourselves to others, worried we’re missing out, wishing other people would be different, feeling offended, loneliness, fear of failure, not wanting to do something, wishing we had less fat or bigger muscles, angry at being controlled, wanting to find the perfect someone, wishing our partner was more perfect, stressed about finances, not wanting to think about problems, not knowing how to fix things, uncertain about choices, rushing from one task to the next, not liking our jobs.

And yet, these problems are self-created.

They’re real, but our tricky minds have created them. The problems are in our heads, created by some ideal/fantasy/expectation of how we wished the world would be, or hope it will be but fear it won’t be. It exists in our heads.

Try this, for a minute: let all of that go for a moment, and just pay attention to the physical things around you right now. Your body, the light, sounds, the thing you’re sitting on, the things moving or sitting still around you. Don’t judge them against what they should be, but just observe what they actually are.

See this moment as it is, without all the things you’re worried/frustrated/angry about. Let go of all of those things, and just see this moment.

It is perfect, as it is.

Accept this moment. Cherish it. This is real, and it is wonderful.

You can go back to worrying about everything else in a moment

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Make Habits that will Fail

There are two extremely common obstacles that get in the way of people succeeding at habit change:

  • Messing up on the habit and then quitting.
  • Not starting because the habit change seems to hard.

Have you faced these problems? The answer is almost certainly yes because pretty much all of us have.

The answer to both of these problems is really the same:

The problem is that people feel discouraged by failure, or feel overwhelmed or intimidated.

The solution is to embrace the “Fail Faster” and iterate philosophy that’s all the rage in software.

Ship the habit

The Model T was created after Henry Ford and his partner shipped a very imperfect Model An automobile and had their mechanics gather real-world information about problems with the car. And then they made it better, one problem at a time.

They only gathered this information by shipping the car.

You’ll only gather the real-world information you need to make the habit stick (exercise, diet, meditation, reading, creating, non-procrastinating, yoga, etc.) by actually doing the habit.

So the most important thing you can do is do the habit every day. If you make mistakes, that’s great, because it’ll help you improve your habit method.

Embrace Failure as Lessons

Missing a day of your meditation habit isn’t absolute failure. Neither is messing up on your diet when you go to a party. Neither is failing to exercise when you’re on a trip.

It’s not a complete failure to mess up. The only true failure is when you don’t learn from the mess-up, and get better at the method.

So embrace each little problem as a way to get better. It’s a part of the process.

Give yourself credit for trying and failing. You don’t get credit for quitting or not trying.

Fail Faster

OK, that’s all great … but how do we incorporate failure and learning and shipping into a method for changing habits?

Here it is — the Fail Faster Method:

  • Write out a brief habit method — for example, “Walk every day for 20 minutes after work.”
  • Ship. That means start the habit. Get it going as easily as possible, so you can gain real-world info. Do the habit for just 3 days — this is an iteration of your habit method. Don’t aim for 30 days, just 3.
  • Fail faster. After doing the habit for 3 days, do a 2-minute review: how did the plan go? Did you do the habit every day? What worked? What got in the way?
  • Adjust. Learn from your last iteration by improving the method. If you didn’t go because you felt tired, can you try exercise at a different time? Can you do it for a shorter time (just 10 minutes)? Can you do it with a friend? Try googling your habit obstacle if you can’t think of a solution — lots of people have had the same obstacle and figured out a solution.
  • Ship again. After a 3-day ship, review, and adjust cycle, repeat the cycle. Every 3 days. Do the habit, do a 2-minute review, and adjust.

If you follow this plan, it’s guaranteed to work. Give yourself brownie points for shipping, for reviewing, for continuing the cycle. Treat each cycle as an experiment, with a hypothesis and a test and an analysis of the data. Experiment again.

Three-day cycles are amazing because you’re iterating faster than pretty much any other method out there. You could iterate daily, actually, but you’re likely to have better data after three days instead of just one.

Embrace experiments, ship, learn from failure and fail faster.

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Today isn’t a great day for me.

Today isn’t a great day for me.

I woke up early after too little sleep. Someone I love is mad at me and doesn’t seem to want to talk to me, which put me in a down mood. I couldn’t get focused to do any writing, so I answered emails, read stuff online, took a nap.

I did a workout, but couldn’t finish it because my wrist hurt.

It wasn’t a great day, and my mood descended as I thought about how badly so many people thought of me …

On a day like this, I sat still. It was all I could do.

I looked inward and faced the hurt.

I stayed with it, just giving it my attention.

I noticed the story I was telling myself, that was causing the pain. It wasn’t a good story. The more I got stuck telling myself this story, the more I was stuck in the pain.

So I turned to the present moment and allowed myself to feel the pain, instead of running from it, pushing it away, or trying to do something to end it.

It wasn’t so bad. And it didn’t stay around much longer, now that I allowed myself to sit with the hurt.

After turning and facing my feelings, staying with them, and seeing the nothingness in the middle of it all … everything was OK. Not brilliant, but not so bad.

Some days, you have nothing, but that’s OK.

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WHO AM I

I am sharing you my favorite quotes I collected in 2016

“There are no passengers on spaceship earth. We are all crew.” 
― Marshall Mcluhan

“There are three things we cry for in life: things that are lost, things that are found, and things that are magnificent.” 
― Douglas Coupland

“I think we are well-advised to keep on nodding terms with the people we used to be, whether we find them attractive company or not. Otherwise they turn up unannounced and surprise us, come hammering on the mind’s door at 4 A.M. of a bad night and demand to know who deserted them, who betrayed them, who is going to make amends.”
― Joan Didion

“We’re all just walking each other home.”
― Ram Dass

“It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”
― J.K. Rowling

“Everything that I’ve ever done I can still relate to, and feel connected to it in a way. There’s no part of my life that I look at and go, ‘I don’t recognize that person at all.’”
― Ian Mckaye

“Fantasy is escapist, and that is its glory. If a soldier is imprisoned by the enemy, don’t we consider it his duty to escape?. . .If we value the freedom of mind and soul, if we’re partisans of liberty, then it’s our plain duty to escape, and to take as many people with us as we can!”
― J.R.R. Tolkien

“Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple.”
― Dr. Seuss

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom.”
― Isaac Asimov

In Mid 20’s this is the question of most individuals and they strive to find the answer by doing end number of things just to understand the answer of WHO AM I? I am not going to claim that I found the answer who am I but I am just going to show some points which I did to find who am I and still I find on the same pitch, same area, with same people just to understand who am I.

Doing a startup is not the only goal you should have. Make goals which make you happy and not the goals which are common to everyone or something which will make other happy.

No matter what in life your work should your priority and don’t let anyone else let that place to be occupied. Make your brain surrounded by positive minded people and with positive energy. Leave your brain empty so that new things can be filled in don’t clutter your brain with useless topics as surrounded by WhatsApp or facebook. Identify things that are important to you and things are not relevant and remove unwanted scrap from the brain. Avoid falling into the trap of social networking, talking to friends on whatapp. Just avoid it

Make your life a goal and never play with your time. Consider time as most important assets in your lifetime, once gone that will never going to comeback. Make sure you better utilize the time in the manner you want to shape your life. Don’t let time shape your life, shape your life according to your needs and according to your goals. Make your time as the most important priority list in your books and journal no matter what I am going to spend my time wisely.

Make sure you have one goal at once. Because you will never feel satisfied in your life so it’s advisable to make one goal in a and stick to that goal and make sure you excel in that goal you become the pro in that goal.

Make mistakes in life, never try to avoid things that make you feel uncomfortable do things which make you feel awkward in life

Meet new people daily and share the experience and share your observation about life.

Laugh often, cry often, make someone happy, donate something which is important to you.

Love yourself, Be crazy and make this world happy.

 

 

 

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Weekly To-do List – 1st Target

This is the weekly goal list wherein I will share my goal for this week and will try to complete the list for the week and on Sunday I will evaluate the results of same.

Guys wish me luck because this time I am not believing and I am going to believe in the hard work I am going to do. So here is the deal I will try to achieve the goal and you will the help me with the luck.
Continue reading “Weekly To-do List – 1st Target”

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Day 2 – 21 days challenge

Some day you don’t have anything to do. As per my challenge i woke up at 4:30 am in the morning and decided to do reading and updating my blog but when i woke up first of all i felt does this waking up really required as it was observed that this monkey mind always find an alternative to the things you want to do . Well if you are able to control this monkey mind then you are the king of your mind. Never let this monkey conquer your thoughts make this monkey your slave rather than crowning him with the most important person for you.

I guess for every course of aaaaactions there should be a concrete path which you lead to effective time management and in my case this was not there. I just decided to wake up early in the morning  rather than thinking what i would be doing post wake up and believe me i was out of action activities to be done.

Well the light i want to put is that every course of actions should be followed with detailed planning so that you don’t get sucked

Somedays you dont have anything to do,

One day you will do what you love to do,

Or say yourself that i will do what i  love to do,

Otherwise everyone is doing what i do.

 

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21 Days challenge : Wake-up at 4:30 am

We are what we repeatedly do – Aristotle

As per Maltz, It takes an average 21 days to make or form a new habit. Inspired by this guy on YouTube, I decided today to take a small step towards changing one habit of waking up late in the morning. It takes only small steps to make a big impact in your life.

As per the statistics published it was observed that 85-90% people who are successful in their job or venture has the habit of waking up early in the morning.

Inspired by these actions force I decided to take this challenge and also expect my fellow readers to take the same challenge and let’s motivate to each other.

Bye and happy sleep